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Published on December 13, 2017

Managing the Stress of This Holiday Seasonmental health blog

The holidays often are portrayed as a time of year that is supposed to be filled with joy, family, friends, generosity and kindness. But for many parents this is a time of year rife with emotional challenges and increased stress. Emotionally, the holidays often remind us of loved ones who may have died or relationships we may have lost through divorce, separation or relocation. Stress can be related to many things such as:

  • Finding the money to buy our children the gifts they hope to find on Christmas morning
  • Preparing, attending, or carpooling children to the added events that the holidays bring
  • Keeping up with the regular demands of life which may include work and/or school

Things to consider this season to help manage the stress of the holidays

Set realistic expectations and practice delegating and saying “no” - Set expectations for gift giving and involve your children by teaching them about the value of money and money management. Create a budget and stick to it. Also, set expectations for yourself and practice boundaries by saying “no” when necessary. It’s OK to not limit your holiday tasks and delegate duties to others who are willing to help.

Family traditions are important - Some families have holiday traditions and rituals that they practice every year. It is important to participate in these as they often increase family bonding and improve overall mood. If you have recently lost a loved one or have other life changes, know that it is OK to adjust your tradition as needed. Change is good. If you don’t have a tradition, consider starting one.    

The holidays are not a competition - Even though social media may make holidays feel like competitions, they’re not. They are about family bonds and creating memories with your loved ones. Focus on that, instead of who got the nicer gift or whose family light display uses the most bulbs. 

December is one of 12 months – It does not need to be the “most wonderful time of year” for you. If you expect absolute holiday magic, you are bound to be disappointed. Take the pressure off the season and enjoy whatever comes.  “Don’t sweat the small stuff…and it’s all small stuff”. (Richard Carlson, PhD, 2000)

Consider all that you have to be grateful for - There will always be someone who “has more” than you, but that is not what is important. Keeping this in perspective may help you appreciate the uniqueness of your holiday experience. Enjoy holiday activities with your family and consider opportunities that your family can do together to help brighten someone else’s holiday season such as volunteering at a homeless shelter, food kitchen or pantry, nursing home, holiday adopt a family gift program and the like.

Take care of yourself - Pay attention to nutrition, exercise and sleep. Taking care of yourself is always important but especially during this time of year when there can be more stress, access to unhealthy food choices, and additional distractions that could impact your sleep. Take walks, eat healthy foods, limit your alcohol consumption, follow a sleep routine, and do things you enjoy.

Seek the help of a professional - Holidays can trigger depression, anxiety and stress. There is hope and there is help. Take steps to manage these things. If you are not sure if you have symptoms of depression or anxiety go to bryanhealth.org/screening and complete a free, confidential, online screening for depression, anxiety, and alcohol or reach out to a health care provider for assistance.  

The Bryan mental health emergency department provides emergency mental health care/crisis assessments to determine if hospitalization is needed. This service is available 24 hours a day, seven days a week at Bryan West Campus, 2300 S. 16th St.

Other Resources:

  • Bryan Counseling Center, 402-481-5991
  • National Suicide Helpline, 1-800-273-8255
  • Crisis Response line in Lincoln operated by CenterPointe, 402-475-6695

Learn more about Bryan Mental Health Services for children, teens, and adults at bryanhealth.org/mentalhealth


 

dave miers

About Dr. Dave Miers

Dave Miers, PhD, is the counseling and program development manager for mental health services at Bryan Medical Center in Lincoln, Neb.

He helped establish the Nebraska State Suicide Prevention Coalition in 1999 and chaired/co-chaired this Coalition until 2017. He currently serves as the past co-chair. Dr. Miers is a member of the leadership group for the Lincoln/Lancaster County Suicide Prevention Coalition. Dr. Miers has published research and co-authored a chapter in the Routledge International Handbook of Clinical Suicide Research focusing on family survivors of a child suicide. Dr. Miers helped develop the Lincoln Lancaster Local Outreach to Suicide Survivors (LOSS) team in Lincoln, Neb. He also helped develop other LOSS teams in Nebraska and is active with LOSS team development on a national level.

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